In any relation, when two people comes closer, they surely try to create boundaries for each other. If we observe all our relations closely, we will find that in that relation, we create boundaries for the other person and if that person (unknowingly) crosses “that boundary”, we become angry & situation goes beyond control.
What exactly are these boundaries? Have we ever given a thought about it? By creating such boundaries in our relations, we actually oppose the right of other person to take own decisions, and eventually, we impose our decisions on that person… In short, we disapprove another person’s Freedom… Which itself is “Inhuman”.
When someone’s freedom is been snatched away, the person becomes sad; and when in that same state of sadness boundaries are crossed by another person, we become sad.
If we respect each other’ freedom, then there will be no need & role of any boundaries in any relation. In other words, “Acceptance” is “Body” & “Freedom” is “Soul” to any relation.
Conflict is very normal in every type of relationship- from business to personal, and especially intimate relationships. Every person goes through it. This is for a number of reasons including the fact that when you enter into a relationship, it is not just between two people. It is between two unique personalities, shaped by unique circumstances.
Conflict can arise when we feel threatened. It is not about physical danger but relates more to our needs, wants, desires and most importantly, our expectations from the other person.